Wednesday, October 9, 2024

Dhunuchi Dancers

There are videos of Dhunuchi dancers on You Tube. Men and women both do this hypnotic dance. 


This poem was written two years ago, and then edited in February, 2023. It was a bit longer, and also more intense. I think this version says what I’m ready to share for now!


Dhunuchi dancer


Dhunuchi dancer, what do you yearn for? 

Holding smoldering pots of clay,

Dhunuchi dancer, who do you burn for? 


Dhunuchi dancer, with what gentle nuance,

Dhunuchi dancer what do you whisper 

In your throbbing trance? 


Dhunuchi dancer, with blissful surrender 

You occilate, you sway,

Dhunuchi dancer, not a step goes astray


Dhunuchi dancer, you dance away..


Dhunuchi dancer, what clarity do you seek? 

In the fog of the smoke,

Dhunuchi dancer, your secrets you keep


The Mother Godess knows all, yet

On bended knee you ask,

Dhunuchi dancer, off comes your brave mask.


Dhunuchi dancer, seeking anonymity 

In clouds of swirling smoke

Dhunuchi dancer, what emotions your tears awoke? 


Dhunuchi dancer, I too had once been lost, 

Forlorn, I had tiptoed..away,

Away from The Mother Goddess, I lost my way.


Now Dhunuchi dancer I see you and rejoice,

Dhunuchi dancer 

I applaud your grace and poise.


Dhunuchi dancer, my soul joins you in play,

Dhunuchi dancer, 

At the feet of The Mother Goddess, I return to stay.


Veenu Banga

10/10/2024

12:34 am





Tuesday, September 24, 2024

When we are souls set free

K is always right! With her editorial advice that is. She loves the first line. She thinks that’s poetry, in itself a complete poem. It’s like all you would need to say in a card. She reads on. Our favorite lines in the poem are the same. I’m secretly pleased that she gets emotional reading it. Then she reads it out aloud to me. And we both savor our favorite parts of this, my newest poem, which I now think is part self love, part, self worth.

“It’s too long, mum,” she then quips. “In the age of Tik Tok, and very short clips..” 

I get her point, and had known it too. But every line was important for me. I even moved the stanzas around. Now I don’t think it needs any explanation or justification. K’s words stay with me all night. And first thing in the morning, I implement a 50% reduction and keep the most cherished content. Like decluttering. I think she will be pleased with this:


For as long as the heart beats, it feels. Love.


When we are souls, you and I

Souls set free to be,

Souls without weighty ties,

Just souls, free to be you and me. 


You see through my sunken cheeks,

My toothless grin brings on your smile,

And I will overlook your failing sight,

With my words, I will be your eyes.


And I will hold your hand, 

And you can be my crutch,

Through skin and bones, in our souls

The love between us is too much. 


I will take you to see all the trees

That in faraway lands I befriended

I will share my lessons learned 

How Nature my life has mended.


But most of all, I will describe the sky,

Each new day, it regales with splendor

For senescence is of the flesh

As souls, to joy we surrender.


For as long as the heart beats, it feels. Love.


Veenu Banga

11:10 pm

September 19, 2024.

Edited: 9:42 am 

09/26/2024



———

 For as long as the heart beats, it feels. Love.


When we are souls set free

Of worldly duties and responsibilities

We take a bold step forward, and

Long-held longings become probabilities. 


When we are souls, you and I

Souls set free to be,

Souls without weighty ties,

Just souls, free to be you and me. 


You see through my sunken cheeks,

My toothless grin brings on your smile,

And I will overlook your failing sight,

With my words, I will be your eyes.


And I will hold your hand, 

And you can be my crutch,

Through skin and bones, in our souls

The love between us is too much. 


Why can we not just soul to soul,

Now explore the world together. 

You let me show you what I’ve seen

And to each other, we tether.


And I will hold your hand, 

And you clasp yours in mine,

Discharged our duties with honor 

Be it known, now it is our time.


You tell me all about your world 

Since before we came together,

And how you found it lacking 

How with your skills you made it better.


And I will take you to see all the trees

That in faraway lands I befriended

I will share my lessons learned 

How Nature my life has mended.


But most of all, I will describe the sky,

Each new day, it regales with splendor

And we can oooh and aah in joyous glee,

To our love for Nature, we surrender. 


For senescence is of the flesh

Souls are as pure as when we are born,

Sometimes children, sometimes youth

The first flush of love our days adorn.


For as long as the heart beats, it feels. Love.


Veenu Banga

11:10 pm

September 19, 2024.

Saturday, July 20, 2024

Guru Poornima

 For seven decades of my life, Guru Poornima day has come and gone. Every year, ever since I became aware of Guru Poornima, a new perspective and a different lesson was learned. However, this year I learned that, 1) we are our own gurus, and 2) our mistakes are our gurus also. 

Who is a guru, other than our mistakes and ourselves? There are always external forces that have the effect of containing us, when we are falling apart. I think that’s my definition of a guru. At different times in our lives, there are different people, with different levels of wisdom and knowledge. At times, I think there are also guru angels, for lack of a better word to describe those people, who casually cross our path and briefly influence our thought perspective, and we may or may not continue to have them in our lives. 

Then there are some people, who when we meet them, do not come into our lives as a guru, but have a profound influence on our thinking. Sometimes, they go beyond that, and just by being in our lives, they ‘contain’ us, as we are adrift on doubts and distrust, due to past circumstances. 

One of these persons was a woman who I met late in life, but at a very crucial juncture. She was ardently devoted to her guru and her cause, and instilled that love in all who crossed her path. Every July, the month of her special day, her memory seems more than that- it brings her closer. Her religion and mine, did not see eye to eye, because those who practiced the temple going, had rejected me and disavowed me from what they felt was their exclusive domain. I was in and out of religions, practicing in the privacy from my home and sometimes my heart, when she became a very powerful influence. 

“She brought me home to Hinduism” reads one entry about her in my journal. I think a return to religion was her greatest gift to me. Later, because of that, I was able to embrace what the Samanijis had to offer. Without them, I would still be adrift and lost. The Samanijis incorporated my broken trust turning it into faith. 

 “Hame kisse ko judge nahin karma chahiye,” I hear her her voice telling this to a group of the mission ladies. What a waste of her time and talents, addressing the pettiness and politics of oversize egos. 

We were supposed to go and meet her Gurudev’s guru bhai together. While that did not happen, I honored her memory by honoring her Gurudev’s guru bhai. In the process I was ‘brought home’ to Hinduism once again. It was not something that I expected or came looking for. I feel such an affinity with his teachings. More so because his own guru is who my dear beloved grandfather followed. It’s like coming full circle. 

Tomorrow I will think of my Samanijis and celebrate their teachings. For today, I will honor myself, because my soul is divine, and my guru lives within me. The challenge is to learn this lesson, and be drenched in that feeling that I do not forget it. It was so lovingly and beautifully brought home to me today. 

Every person on this planet experiences the world differently, or words to that effect. Everyone is special. I know for a fact that this universe is special. The birds, the animals, the trees, the flowers, the bees, the butterflies, the clouds, the stars, the sun and the moon, and the wind and the fire, all of which I come from and to which we will all return. If that is do, and that is where we come from, we really and truly, must all be special. Including me.

Happy Guru Poornima day to all the gurus in the world. Thank you for shining the light. 

Veenu Banga

07/ 20-21/2024

1:27 am

Thursday, July 4, 2024

Gratitude Streak?

 

Gratitude Steak? 

 Good Lord, had no idea that on my last birthday post, I was already thinking of the Gratitude steak I had what seems like yesterday, but is already a couple of years ago.

The steak stuff came up because of Duo Lingo. He’s such a cutie, trying so beard to please me. Had been rewarding me for my 5 day streak and now shows up all hurt and sad face, saying, “Looks like you’re ignoring me, so I will not trouble you for now,” or words to that end.

However, a couple of nights ago, I seriously, genuinely, in all earnestness was thinking about gratitude, when there was the stubborn weather to complain about. Weather is such a big deal, amongst us foolish mere mortals. I have not even visited my blog at say, “Hi!”

Anyway, here I was in be, with the Dyson heating on, grumbling how cold it was despite peak summer. Even Sweden was warmer this time, much much warmer! A glorious 15 full days, in a summer of endless days and reluctant and reclusive nights. Sunrise was around 3:00 am when we arrived, and sunset was 10:36 pm. Then after the solstice, it changed with sunset happening earlier, and sunrise a little late. However, not one night did I see any starts, not even when I woke up at night to go..well, you know, women’s bladders never disappoint. I did not have to set the alarm to wake up in the middle of the ‘night’, to see the stars. 

And I was not alone. The poor birds were also quite confused. They were up all almost night blabbering and chirping away, except the pigeons, OMG- there long cooing admonishments went on and in and on.

I must be a Master of Digression. I was talking about being in bed and gratitude. Well, with the Dyson on, it became warm pretty quickly and I wanted to remove my socks using just my toes. Nope! Did not happen. I had to use my hands, as there’s no Pratima in my life here, to spoil me, with her nighttime winter massages with moisturizing creme on my arms and hands and feet. Then she put on the socks on my feet and tucked me into bed. Again, I digress! Ha! Does that make me an MD, Haha, Master of Digression! 😁

Okay, I was trying to remove my socks with my toes! Nope. Couldn’t even pull then down a cm (ahem, me using metric! ) That’s when I realized I was wearing my REI purchased socks. Big gratitude for those small pieces of foot clothing. It’s the best investment. They’re all so good. Farm to feet have to be my favorite. Green gray, which I’m wearing today, are also good. No holes, despite my wearing them pretty rough. So that’s what I’m grateful for today, this week rather. 

For the thinner socks, it has to be DKNY. (Donna Karan New York) are pretty good. Nice firm grip without being tight, and no holes, which showed up on my go;d toes and all that crap. I have so many socks with just a small hole in on of the pair. Has to be the male ? I don’t want to wear them, and can’t bring myse;f to throw them because of it pretty good condition. 

I know there’ll be errors. Will fox in the morning. Trying to get my blogging steak started. Gratitude rather. Forgive me for the errors, the typos, the grammar. But I’m back, dear blog, thank you for waiting. Eyes closing, and headed to bed and sweet slumber. He, grateful for that too! 

Veenu Banga

July 4th, 2024

11:55pm.

Monday, May 27, 2024

The Happiest Birthday of my Life!

 What a glorious day! I think the location had a lot to do with it. Also, the love of friends, old and new. The pleasant surprise of all the love I was shown. Unexpected, welcome, and one that drew me in. Thank you God. 

Woke to an unexpected dream, and then the thoughts, how unexpected too- the memory retains instances in all their colors. The color of trauma when it happened, anger when it was a few years gone. Grief, sadness and a strong sense of injustice when one puts distance that time creates, into the equation. And now, just a blip in the miles and miles that have taken me further and further away from it. 

Living in the moment, it’s all good but it’s not without cost. It wreaks havoc on decision making. Living in the moment means rewarding good behavior with forgiveness. It also means ‘forgetting’ or rather allowing bad behavior to go unpunished, or in my case, tolerating beyond tolerance. 

We choose life, or we choose to live life, one day at a time. Thankfully, my constants are my life’s greatest blessings. They are my greatest wealth, and the rewards of all the unthinkable I have lived through. Suddenly, life reminds me to focus in gratitude, and I’m listening. In the past, not so much. But then, then, it would not have been right either. That’s the sign of being Alive. 

Veenu Banga

05/27/2024

11:39pm. 

Monday, April 1, 2024

Music: a short story

This is a very old short story that I was reminded of today, and I sat and read it again. Also did some minor editing to it. 

Veenu


MONDAY, JANUARY 28, 2019

Music


Music: A short story

 

In her urgency to put the tape into the cassette player, she fumbled clumsily and dropped the plastic box of cassettes onto the floor. This created an unwanted problem of what must seem epic proportions at this most inopportune moment. Still flustered, she just let them lay scattered around. Randomly picking out one, she hurriedly shoved it into the deck, hitting the 'Play' button hard. 


Rushing to the window, she eagerly but cautiously peeped out. Moving the thin muslin curtains ever so slightly, her neck leaning low and to the right, she checked to see if the cause of her joyful excitement was still there. He was! 


Her heart beat excitedly, and an unconscious smile lit up her youthful face. She succumbed to a euphoric sense of nostalgia. The familiarity of this total stranger gave her a feeling of kinship with him, and she felt a wave of reminiscence envelop her. She did not want to take her eyes off him and continued staring out into the street at the object of her fascination while he sat unawares in his cab, oblivious to the excitement he had generated. 


The notes of the music opened too softly, too slowly, for her intention. Impatiently, she turned up the volume, hoping HE could hear it. She adjusted her position behind the curtain to keep up with his movement as he shifted in the driver's seat of the taxi. 


Finally, the traditional sound of the harmonium picked up pace, stirring the stillness of the small ground-floor room in their old Bombay building. "Oh please, please, please, start singing now," she begged, looking imploringly at the tape deck. As if on cue, the vocals accompanied the music, and she increased the volume some more and looked out again to see if he was still there. He was! A loud sigh of relief escaped her, and she held her glance with eyes sometimes squinting to get a better look. 

 

He seemed oblivious to the loud music coming from the ground floor room, with its door and windows wide open. She was separated from his taxi cab, wherein he sat, by just a five-foot wide balcony and another six feet of sidewalk pavement between them. Up went the volume again until it was nearly full blast on her SONY deck, which was quite fancy for the 1980s, she noted with pride. 


She so desperately wanted him to hear the music. She kept gazing at him in complete abandon, knowing by just looking at him that he would like the music.

Desperate times call for desperate action, so she surmised and boldly went out to the front balcony, shielding herself behind some tall potted plants, every sense alert to his presence. She saw his head shake a little, and he opened the door to get out of his cab. He now stood leaning against the door on the driver's side with his back towards her. 


It was early morning, and the sun, still low, had not hit the pavement as yet. It was hidden behind the tall buildings on the other side of the road. She became conscious of the coming and going on the street: people headed to work, children off to their school, old women going to the temple with offerings of flowers and fruits cupped in half-folded hands, and some retired men returning from their morning meet up in Shivaji Park. Uneasily, she realized someone might stop to say hello and strike up a conversation. She did not want him to notice her, she thought almost shyly, embarrassed at her forwardness. She did not want him to associate her with the unreasonably loud music. 

 

Abandoning the plants, she hurried in and again took up position standing behind the window, where she might get a better view yet remain hidden by the thin curtains and wide mesh of the wrought iron grill, the wide balcony, and the sidewalk maintaining a convenient distance between them. 


The song had picked up pace now, and even though the loud volume created static in the room, he seemed totally unaware of its playing. Another sigh escaped her, and she resigned herself to look and keep looking. Humming along and enjoying the music, she moved in rhythm with the tune, softly clapping the fingers of her folded palms. 


It was a happy start to her morning in a mundane life, where no day is the same, yet each day comes and goes, swallowing a part of her life and of herself. Life in this place, with no personal family or friends, was changing who she was, and she no longer recognized herself. (Something not uncommon amongst married women in middle-class India of the 80's and earlier.) Seeing him had brought back a sense of happy familiarity.

 

She saw him looking up at the tall building across the street where his passenger must have disappeared. She watched his posture change, probably with the anxiety of any waiting cabbie who must keep a tab on truant passengers. 


She turned up the music some more, desperate for his reaction. He was broad-shouldered with a strong back, and she could see the slight rise of his shoulder blades beneath the full-sleeved nondescript cotton shirt as he stood with his arms probably folded in front of him, yet the shoulders upright, accentuating his strong back. He had good posture, she thought, and was probably over six feet tall, with a robustness that was the hallmark of most Sikh men. His light-colored turban gave him a relaxed, casual air.

 

She felt an uncommon attraction when she saw him pull up in the black and yellow Bombay cab as she was waving the kids off to school this morning. Finding an unusual comfort in his overall appearance, which she could not define because of the perfunctory glance, she had giggled briefly, wondering if he too slurped when drinking his tea or if his mustache got wet. Since then, she had been distracted and behaving very oddly, she admitted to herself, but she couldn't help herself. 


She liked looking at him, or his back, because that was the most she had seen since that first brief glimpse of his endearing face. A quick warmth had suddenly passed over her. So she now remained at her station, hunching slightly and looking out the window at a Bombay taxi driver she had never seen before and probably would never see again. She had just received this gift of unexpected joy delivered to her door, and she would relish it as long as it would last. 

 

The loud music brought her to the present moment. She wondered what he was thinking, wondered if he was worried his Fare had done a runner? Was he, therefore, blocking out all else from his mind so that he was deaf to the music? Or was all the other morning sounds on the increasingly busy street prevented him from hearing it? 


She knew with certainty that the music could be heard on the street. In fact, she was sure they could hear it even inside the building across the street. She peered through the curtains again but could not detect any reaction from HIM. His demeanor gave away nothing. Perhaps, she thought, because she could not see his face, just his shoulders and upper body and the side of his ear and the back of his turbaned head, which looked up every now and then. 

 

Suddenly he moved forward and walked a few steps towards the building across the road. She heard someone talk to him from one of the top floors of the building. He came back momentarily towards his cab, and he was smiling now, acknowledged by his passenger. He opened the door of his cab and settled back into the driver's seat, resting his elbow on the cab window. She got a better look and noted the strong nose of his profile. She liked his face and felt that warmth once again. After a long time, she felt good in this kind of way. A certain peace pervaded her senses; she felt a surge of comforting emotion, primitive yet pristine, like sanity, washing all over her. 

 

The cabbie picked up a newspaper from somewhere inside his taxi and started to read it. Then, almost at once, he stopped, folded it, and put it slowly down as if trying to focus on something, to hear something! Her heart missed a beat, and she realized he had heard the music! She could clearly see the smile spread across his face as if mirroring her own happiness. She saw the expression on his face change as he sat back, relaxing deep into his seat; he started nodding and swaying his head to the beat of the music. 

 

"You are my everything," the voice sang, "in you my purest joys I find…." And she sang along to the swaying of his head. For the next several seconds, she had indeed found her purest joy.

 

It seemed too soon when the door opened in the back of the cab, and a man got in. The taxi driver leaned forward to start the engine. She saw his flowing white beard touch the steering wheel as the cab lurched forward. She closed her eyes, the tears streaming down her face, as she relished the short blissful moments in time, when riding on the strains of Sikh devotional music, she connected with memories of her grandfather.


Veenu Banga

copyright 2003

based on an actual incident in 1983

Wednesday, March 27, 2024

It’s all about Emotions

 Master Lin, in his Level 1 class, says Emotions are the most powerful and the primary cause of disease. The disease begins with Emotion. So does healing, but this Emotion has Love in it. 

Every relationship cannot be described with Love, though it is agreed that there are many kinds of Love, including platonic, filial, etc. 

I think the highest Love is an adoration filled with respect. The Adoration of someone so worthy of being adored that to call it even an aspect of Love will be shortchanging it. 

Such Adoration came into my life when I met the Samanijis. Samaniji Jin Pragya ji, and Samaniji Kshanti Pragya ji. It is essential in life to have someone to look up to. Not necessarily a role model, but someone whose traits you can aspire to. May it be their intense spirituality, wisdom, or even discipline, all of which make a persona that excels at life. Lives a life of a higher purpose. These were my Samanijis. They came into my life to resurrect and save. To get me back on the track of life, where I was irretrievably derailed and displaced. 

In any interaction of worth, emotions are involved, and emotions can mine one's innermost depths. The Samanijis usually gave lectures in Hindi. Real "kadhin" (strictly adhering to the classical texts) Hindi is not the colloquial language I'm familiar with, but the textbook kind, and it took me several weeks to comprehend the meaning of their talks. 

However, I maintained the interaction and was richly rewarded. I wrote poetry in Hindi- not in the script, but transliterated. This was only the second time in my life. The first Hindi poem was a song I wrote for a housewarming of a Fiji-Indian Christian family in Sydney. For the Samanijis, I wrote more than one poem in Hindi, and immodest as it is, I thought, and they thought the verses were well written! 

This post was inspired by binge-watching a music group comprising a poet and two singers, one male and the other female. The poet, Ajay Sahasb, stretched popular Bollywood music and transported it into something magical. The singers Rajesh Singh and Gyanita Diwedi have the perfect voices and the right skills to sing them. The musicians accompanying them do a fabulous job of uplifting the melodies to a level of superiority and giving the songs a new lease of life. 

They've taken it off on a tangent, and it's paid off in terms of praise and popularity because of Ajay Sahaab's empathy and emotions toward the lyrics and where they come from in the circumstances under which they were written, and for which they were written with regards to the scene in the movie. He seems able to tell the story of its aura when he adds his own verses to the existing lyrics. 

I think it's the excellence of this group that, somewhere in my heart, I strive to do in my work, which is languishing in the pages of several notebooks that fill up boxes in my home. Those stories deserve their airtime, and their significance, relevance, and worth should not be for me to decide. 

My job is done once I have written. I have to remember that just as I get pleasure from reading other people's work, some may enjoy my writing. That's a pleasing thought!

Veenu Banga

03/28/2024

1:01 am